Healthy Living Books Books

Rating: - wanna be a little more worried?
I bought this book for my husband, thinking 'aww' a book especially for him. My husband hated it. And on reading so did I. The author obviously has a very usual relationship with his wife as he often talks about feelings of jealously between them. Its very unusual. For example "when you feel the baby kicks your wife might feel jealous as so far its been her private pregnancy"! How ridiculous how would jealousy ever come into it! The book assumes all men are concerned about is finances - it has pages and pages on money, insurance etc. there is nothing much about the joys you feel as a father. If your husband is kind hearted, honest and is truly looking forward to pregnancy and the birth of his child I would advise not to buy this book. The tone is very negative and some of the statements and assumptions about what "men" and "women", are very generalised bordering on ridiculous ie "your partner might be worried that you're going to leave her" what the heck?. It seems very personally related to the authors experience, and is simply selling because it is one of the only books packaged to be directly aimed at men. I would suggest the book "the birth partner" it is for men/the partner and is written in a matter of fact and open way (the author is not overly emotionally involved) - getting you to ask questions about how you would feel about certain situations rather than dictating how you do feel. READ THE OTHER 1 STAR REVIEWS FOR THIS BOOK AND YOU'LL SEE EXACTLY WHAT I'M TALKING ABOUT!

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Rating: - Excellent and highly recommended!
My daughter is pregnant and I know very well what her husband and she are going through. As a marriage consultant and sexual therapist I strongly advised them to buy and this book because it is a great source of information for a father-to-be. I do NOT think that he should just follow his gut instinct and hope that he will do everything properly. It is a very important and responsible role to be a father and I would never advise anyone to jump blindly and unprepared. Mr. Brott is an expert in this field and gradually describes an entire role model for a father-to-be. He is very involved, loving, caring, supportive and always nearby. This model is very different from the stereotypical model of a father-macho whose role is to make sure that there is food on the table and the bills are paid.

I am very happy that this book will really help you to be an example of an involved husband and father-to-be. The last thing your pregnant wife will want is a clueless husband who doesn't understand what's going on with her, the baby and feel anxious about the future. This book provides a lot of advice about financial planning and puts everything in a perspective which I think is very important for a man. Probably you will find some parts of it "obvious" but they will reassure and calm you down that what you do is right. Anxiety is one of the worst enemies and this book will successfully help you to keep it under control.

I strongly recommended to my daughter in addition to this book to buy additional bestseller "scientifically guaranteed male multiple orgasms and ultimate sex". Pregnancy is a tough period for sex. That's why you may feel bad or even rejected from the serious decrease in your intimate contacts. Ritz made a breakthrough with the discovery of "the vip muscle", which generates multiple orgasms in men with or without a partner. That's why my daughter's husband was very happy and calmed to receive from her that book. Now he reads Ritz's book, "enjoys daily multiple orgasms alone" according to my daughter and prepares for "ultimate sex" after the delivery. That's why I highly recommend both books!

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Rating: - A book not to become outdated
The Expectant Father is one of those books every soon to be father should read. I enjoyed it immensely. It covers the topic of fatherhood in a very competent and insightful manner. I had a several how and why question lingering in my mind after completing "The Expectant Father." I do not think a single book on such an important and often times complicated topic can answer all questions. I read "Systemic Parenting: An Exploration of the Parenting Big Picture" (Gaskill) after completing The Expectant Father. These books are very complimentarily of the other. Brott cover the subject of fatherhood pretty well, Gaskill (Systemic Parenting) covers the topic of parenthood exceptionally well. These texts have helped me be a father that I only which I had while growing up! I will certainly keep them in my library for that time when my son informs me that I am going to be a grand father. I do not believe these two books will ever become dated.

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Rating: - Good Reading for first time Fathers
I found this book interesting for new fathers like me. Some things may be obvious and repetitive, but learning that many of the feelings experienced for the first time during pregnancy are actually quite common helps you better to deal with them.
The book is well organized so you can quickly skip sections that you don't need to read about (for example, twins, second birth, etc.). Overall, I like and do not consider it to be offensive for women at all.

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Rating: - I found this book offensive
I am an expectant father. In my opinion, this book has an offensive tone, and makes terrible assumptions throughout. Here is a sample what the book suggests a woman might be feeling during pregnancy (literal quotes): "afraid you won't love her after the baby is born (after all, she's not the same woman you married);" "may be afraid she won't have enough love to go around (what with loving you, and all);" "feelings of jealousy (after all, it was her private pregnancy until now);" "increasingly dependent---needs to know that you'll be there for her, that you still love her;" "she might be afraid that you don't love her anymore, and you might leave her." And so on. What kind of weak, spineless, self-loathing creature do the authors take the average woman to be? There are plenty of books with on-the-money, fact-filled advice for fathers; this isn't one of them.